Reconnecting with yourself

When you are in your 40s and a woman, you have often neglected yourself for at least a decade. Careers, kids, and/ spouses take precedence and it’s easy to fall last in line. I did. After homeschooling for 10 years, I was in awe of women that seemed to manage kids, careers, and self-care. Their grass definitely seemed greener than mine. I realized that if I was jealous it was because there was something they had that I didn't. It was how they prioritized themselves over making sure everyone’s laundry was folded or dinner was made from scratch. Instead, they exercised, had lunch dates with girlfriends, regular weekly date nights with their husbands, nails done or just took a day off to chill and have wine and a bath at 4pm. What?! I could DO that?! Mind blown. Then I realized I don’t actually want to take a bath and have wine.

But travel? THAT I wanted. So that year, I went with my sister to Machu Picchu. I started to reconnect with with who I am, what I wanted, and what my goals were outside of my kids and husband. It was the beginning of a huge shift for me. One that every woman deserves.

Who do we admire close to us based on how they chose to live their life and why? Jealousy can be a great indicator of your deep desires.

What did you love doing when you were young and without so many responsibilities? How did it make you feel?

Book that trip. Call your girlfriends. Pick up that tennis racket again. It may bring you (and your loved ones, as a result) more joy than you imagine!